It is easier to feel confident about a relationship when life asks relatively little of it. Children, illness, money worries, loss and caring responsibilities can stretch the time and energy available for each other.

Until you have faced pressure together, you cannot fully know how your partnership will respond. Afterwards, you have more experience to draw on... including what you learned about sharing the load, meeting differences and finding each other again.

Consider both what you have faced and how much support and recovery were available. Getting through a difficult period tells part of the story. How you experienced each other within it tells another.

These answers add context, not points to your relationship scores. They stay on this page and aren’t sent or saved.

When life became difficult, what did you learn about how you face it together?